As a bride, you probably haven’t planned a wedding before. I’ve seen a few (to say the least), and I’ve picked up a few tips along the way. Hope you find these useful!
1. Families are great, but they sometimes come with a lot of baggage and can cause stress. Remember that while family members are involved and important, it is NOT their day. It is YOUR wedding and you’re only going to do this once. So if family members seem to be overbearing, it’s completely OK to take a few minutes with your new husband and just step outside for some fresh air. Or find a little spot indoors where you can just catch your breath. DO tell your coordinator and/or photographer where you’re going though, in case you’re needed in a hurry.
2. Drink plenty of water! Sounds silly but it’s really important. I’ve seen brides pass out because they were dehydrated. Don’t overdo the booze while you’re getting ready either, because you don’t want to pass out for a different reason, or stumble up the aisle.
3. On a related note, use the restroom right before you put on your dress. It’s a lot easier before rather than afterward.
4. Delegate tasks to one or two friends, especially if you haven’t hired a wedding planner. That’s why you have bridesmaids and a maid of honor. They’re not just there to look pretty, so use them to help you make it through your day.
5. Consider having two pairs of shoes. A set of heels for the ceremony, and something a little flatter for dancing and the reception. Flats also come in handy if you have to walk on grass etc when taking photos or navigating the grounds. I’ve seen bridal slippers, bridal flip-flops for the beach, you name it! There is nothing wrong with being comfortable and you’re going to be on your feet nearly the entire day. If there’s a chance of rain, why not bring some colorful boots? It makes a nice photo opportunity as well.
6. Make a timeline in advance of your day…way in advance! Your photographer and wedding planner/caterer/venue manager should be able to help you with this. In fact, this is something I do with my clients very early on in the process, so they have an idea of how the day will flow. You can change it as often as you need to, but make sure you have it down on paper so you can see how your day will flow.
7. Bring a sewing kit with you on your wedding day. You never know what might go wrong, and being able to fix a small tear, or close up a zipper that’s gone all wonky, can make the difference between a stressful wedding and a blissful one. You can even buy safety pins in black and white for emergency dress/tux repair.
8. Schedule more getting-ready time than you think you need. You will end up using ALL of it, trust me! Ask your hair and makeup people how much time they need for the group, and then add at least an hour to cover delays. It’s better to have a few minutes at the end to sit and chat with your girls, than it is to stress over rushing and delaying the ceremony.
9. When getting ready, have YOUR makeup and hair done first, then followed by your bridesmaids and the moms. If time gets short, you don’t want to be the one your stylist is rushing with and cutting corners on. (That should be your future mother-in-law! Shh, you didn’t hear me say that.) Then have a quick touch-up before you head off to get married.
10. Have fun, be engaged with your guests, and remind yourself to take little mental pictures of the day. It can be such a whirlwind…I know it was for my wedding. We could barely remember what happened, even the next day. That’s what photos are for though. They catch the moments you miss, and remind you of things you’ve forgotten.